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Las diferencias culturales y la seguridad de los niños


Nací en un rancho de visones en el centro de Iowa, donde el viento invernal sopla frío en las llanuras, lo que crea el clima perfecto para desarrollar la valiosa piel codiciada para los abrigos de visón. Esto fue mucho antes de que PETA y sus partidarios que lanzan pintura roja fueran defensores de estas criaturas parecidas a las comadrejas.

 

No estoy segura de la relevancia de esta información, pero siempre he pensado que mi best seller del New York Times comenzaría de esa manera. Como eso es muy poco probable, pensé utilizarlo aquí.

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Es una referencia a mi cultura y a lo que ha contribuido a formar mis principios y tradiciones, y quizá explique por qué valoro algunas cosas y desprecio otras. Por ejemplo, no considero que una dieta de carne y papas sea perjudicial o desagradable, especialmente si se trata de la comida que pido para mi cumpleaños: escalope de papas y jamón. Además, siempre elegiría el crujiente de manzana como mi postre favorito en lugar de un pastel de cumpleaños, pero no frunciría el ceño si me ofrecieran ambos. Anhelaba visitar a mi abuela Larson sólo para devorar un kringle (una galleta noruega), o dos o más, si ella no estaba mirando.

Aunque todo eso suena un poco excesivo, también desarrollé una ética de trabajo sólida. Las tareas antes de jugar. Barrer las hojas, arrancar la maleza y limpiar la cocina antes de comenzar la siguiente comida. Hacer frente a una tarea desagradable en lugar de dejarla para otro día. Eso también significa que desarrollé un desdén por quienes parecían adoptar una actitud de evasión, evasión, evasión. Con sólo escribirlo, la mandíbula se me vuelve tensa. Prefiero ser responsable y estar equivocada, antes que ser irresponsable.

Con todo esto quiero decir que somos lo que somos, pero no todos somos iguales. En este tremendo crisol cultural como es la Arquidiócesis de Miami, tenemos una maravillosa variedad de costumbres y tradiciones. Al Arzobispo le gusta decir que lo mejor de Miami es que está muy cerca de los Estados Unidos. De hecho, nuestro tapiz cultural es colorido, revelador, entretenido y rico.

Lo recordé hace poco, cuando empezamos a planificar la celebración del cumpleaños de un par de colegas. Todos los años me sentía perdida sobre la manera de celebrarlo porque a una de las cumpleañeras no le gustan los dulces (¡sí, es increíble!). El caso es que, tratando de hacer una celebración adecuada para todos, me enteré de que a ella sí le gusta el flan. Nos salvamos. Ahora bien, esta nativa del medio oeste tenía que aprender a hacer flan. La verdad es que fue bastante divertido. Compré un molde para flan y probé varias recetas y técnicas, con la ayuda de mi esposo. Mis valientes amigos y vecinos hispanos se ofrecieron a probarlo. Aprendí sobre esa rica (y cremosa) tradición, sobre la propia cumpleañera, pasé tiempo con mi esposo y mis vecinos, y terminé con una historia divertida y un postre delicioso.

Aprender sobre el patrimonio y las tradiciones valiosas de nuestras comunidades puede resultar divertido. También puede ser esencial para la protección de los niños y los adultos vulnerables. Si bien es interesante compartir diferentes comidas, vestimentas o incluso religiones, es imprescindible que todos pensemos de la misma manera cuando se trata de proteger a los más vulnerables entre nosotros. Las leyes proporcionan el fundamento de lo que es aceptable, pero a veces no son conocidas o no se les da la misma consideración que a las tradiciones y las culturas.

Por ejemplo, en algunos países la servidumbre infantil es una práctica arraigada culturalmente desde hace mucho tiempo. Los padres—por lo general, madres con dificultades—envían a sus hijos a vivir con otra familia para que les asistan en las tareas de la casa, la cocina y la limpieza a cambio de mejores oportunidades educativas y un mejor modo de vida que los padres no podrían proporcionarles. Lamentablemente, a menudo esta situación se asemeja más a la esclavitud infantil, y a veces termina en abuso sexual. Obviamente, esta tradición no es aceptable ni legal en los Estados Unidos. Sin embargo, es una circunstancia cultural de la que debemos tener conocimiento para proteger a los niños que están a nuestro cargo, y para educar a una población que no está consciente sobre los aspectos legales, y mucho menos sobre el trauma que esto supone para el niño, la familia y la sociedad en general.

La mejor manera de cambiar cómo una cultura entiende el abuso infantil es a través de la educación. Esta es otra de las razones por las que la lectura de los boletines mensuales de Virtus es tan importante y, sí, obligatoria.

Por lo tanto, acepten lo que puede parecer una tarea desagradable. No lo dejen para más tarde ni lo eviten, ya que los conocimientos que adquieran podrían representar una diferencia significativa en la vida de un niño, incluso salvar una vida.

La lectura de los boletines toma de 3 a 5 minutos cada mes y es necesaria para mantener una cuenta de Virtus activa. Sin una cuenta activa y la toma de huellas dactilares cada cinco años, los empleados y voluntarios—sean sacerdotes, religiosos o laicos—no pueden servir en nuestras iglesias y escuelas.

De la misma manera que el abuso abarca todas las culturas, razas, religiones, posición socioeconómica y niveles de educación, también hay que aprender a proteger a las personas vulnerables para que no sean víctimas del abuso de menores, la trata de personas y el maltrato. El bautismo nos llama a cuidarnos unos a otros, sin importar cuál sea nuestro regalo de cumpleaños preferido. Los boletines de Virtus pueden mostrarnos cómo hacerlo.

En el sitio web de la Arquidiócesis de Miami pueden ver este breve vídeo (en inglés) donde se explica por qué la lectura de los boletines mensuales de Virtus es beneficiosa para todos.

 

Comments from readers

Br. Lombardo D'Auria, O.F.M. Cap. - 04/07/2022 05:24 PM
Our daily routine takes us away from being on guard. Virtus' continual reminder to be up to date reminds me of the Gospel readings where we hear Jesus' words to be like HIM. Thus, each Gospel reading calls us to be like Christ. Each reminder counts to help us and those who will one day need our help. Jan, thank you for encouraging us to be on guard, to be a lighthouse. Happy and blessed Easter! In Christ the King,
Lisa P - 04/07/2022 10:26 AM
Jan, once again you hit that ball out of the park with your humorous acknowledgement of cultural differences and upbringing (how COLD was it when you did those farm chores in Iowa?!?!) while acknowledging that child abuse transcends cultural contexts. The evil of sexual abuse seeks the weak spots of any culture to embed itself, and it's important to call it out as intrinsically evil and never justified -- no matter the context. Thank you, Jan -- we also look forward to that book one day!
Sara Martinez Gonzalez - 04/06/2022 07:04 PM
Jan, Thank you for your dedication to protect our children. Keeping us inform makes us stronger, and better equipt to continue the fight to protect children and vulnerable adults from predators. People like you make the world a better place. God bless you.
Elaine Benjamin - 04/06/2022 10:47 AM
Jan, thank you for sharing your experiences especially in all the cultures. This is an eye-opener for me. The things we take for granted show how we can be selfish and that we have to pay attention to our world. Your awesome article is such an inspiration. I am glad I'm part of this movement of changing a culture of child abuse.
Issa Gaytan - 04/05/2022 03:02 PM
Each blog that I read is a witness of real life. You made my laugh and reflect about my heritage. This time the call is very close to me because as a Latin people we see so many things that are common life in our countries and sometime it leads to a life of abuse just because it is the "way that was done" As you said, we must be aware of the circumstances and help those children who are in danger. This is the time to look out for them and fight for them, keep them safe. Thank you Jan for remind us of those who need us most, we have to be proactive always. I really enjoyed this blog from you. Thank you.
Gloria Gonzalez - 04/05/2022 01:10 PM
Jan, you continue to be a great asset to the Archdiocese of Miami. We have been blessed with your knowledge and faith towards keeping our children safe.
Anie Flor - 04/05/2022 11:50 AM
Hello Jan, Thank you for sharing a great & inspirational article and video. Your tireless efforts in being the lighthouse and bringing awareness in protecting children and vulnerable adults is admirable. You are an extraordinary example to all of us! As always, thank you for all you are and do!
Helen Lopez - 04/05/2022 11:41 AM
Jan, thank you for your dedication to the safety of our children and vulnerable adults. You are an inspiration! Great article.
Blamerka Mendoza - 04/04/2022 08:06 PM
Jan, thank you for your constant and keen efforts to keep our children safe; to keep us informed and educated so that we may be vigilant to help prevent abuse; for sharing a personal story; and for the excellent and informative video.
Mirta Blanco - 04/04/2022 04:23 PM
Hi Jan thank you for sharing this video, it was inspirational to say the least, and thank you for sharing some of your early childhood. Since I've known you, always thought you were "buena gente" and always commented how dedicated you are to your vocation (job) of voicing for the vulnerable and always your quick response to my needs whenever I needed to contact you. God put you in this path and we couldn't have asked for a more reliable and sweetest person. Looking forward to tasting your flan whenever we meet again!! Warm regards and many blessings to you and your family. Mirta
Pat Solenski - 04/04/2022 02:26 PM
Thank you again Jan for your consistent and tireless efforts to keep children safe. You help all of us to know what to do and to be vigilant in signs of abuse.
Grecia Gomez - 04/04/2022 02:00 PM
Jan, thank you. The Virtus training is always so informative. There's always something new to learn. Like I share with all my church volunteers, is the importance to be able to notice when we can help a student or an elderly person who needs the help. The Virtus bulletin gives us that knowledge and awareness.๐Ÿ•Š We can be someone’s lighthouse
Patricia Galvin - 04/04/2022 01:56 PM
Gerry with a G was engaging....Jan's anecdotes were interesting. I am new to VIRTUS in Miami...I guess getting people to read the monthly newsletters is a problem. This was a not unpleasant reminder.
Amy Cumming - 04/04/2022 01:38 PM
Let us all do all we can to help protect the vulnerable. By staying informed and pro-active, we can make a difference and help save others from harm.
Deacon Thomas Hanlon - 04/04/2022 01:29 PM
Great article. I have been reading Virtus since the beginning. However I tried to read it today and cannot get into the system. Reset password sent Emails for help. No luck!!!
Anita Brommer - 04/04/2022 12:33 PM
Love your blog Jan thanks for sharing and the video is very thought provoking. God bless and thank you for all you do โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™ Anita
Sheila - 04/04/2022 12:27 PM
Thanks for this..great article you wrote
Fr Federico Capdepon - 04/04/2022 12:05 PM
Dear Jan. I read your article. First of all congratulations . What a wonderful way to describe and share your experiences . I encourage you to do this more often so you can continue inspiring us . I want to congratulate you for the way you are handling the Virtus program . I read your postings and articles . You have helped us feeling safer in a difficult moment for our church . Again on behave so many thank you . Keep up with this important job you hold in the Archdiocese of Miami . We pray for you and your wonderful family . May God bless you Fr Federico
Eileen D-H - 04/04/2022 11:51 AM
Great article, Jan! I suspect your Iowa roots not only explain your disdain for procrastination, but also your tenacity to defend the vulnerable among us. The video was a terrific piece and an timely reminder of the importance of the Virtus bulletins. I’m not much of a sports fan so I wasn’t familiar with Gerry-the-Ravens-sportscaster, but was certainly familiar with the individual with whom he was unfortunate enough to share a name. Unbelievable what a difference one letter made in his life! His lighthouse vs. spotlight analogy was “spot” on. Thanks again for a great post.
Rafael Maria Calvo Forte - 04/04/2022 11:38 AM
Excelente servicio presta el programa Virtus, porque da herramientas humanas para proteger a los menores.
Lisa Dodge - 04/04/2022 11:18 AM
Thank you Jan for a great article. I love learning about your upbringing. I will meet you anytime for ham and scalloped potatoes. The video was very informative.
Rosa Frometa - 04/04/2022 11:01 AM
Jan, Thank you for your article. I will share with our volunteers. God bless, Rosa E. Frometa
VALLI Leone - 04/04/2022 10:57 AM
Thanks, dear Jan, for an interesting and insightful article. Our Church, the Body of Christ on earth, is both virtuous and courageous, in my opinion, to continue the VIRTUS requirements, trainings and updates. Every child is a blessing and a reward from the Lord. Jesus never fails! ๐Ÿ”†๐Ÿ•Š๐Ÿ”†
Carmen Matos-Raia - 04/04/2022 10:35 AM
Excellent article. Sharing in Facebook now. God Bless,
Paulette - 04/04/2022 10:17 AM
I have been a lover and admirer, always in awe of the grandeur yet humility of the lighthouse for as long as I can remember. Books, memorabilia, photos and decor Enhance my formal living area. I appreciate and respect the three minutes per month I take to learn when reading the Virtus bulletins. As I continue to pass on that sentiment, the Lighthouse as a visual beacon of hope will be included in my narrative. Paulette with a “P”
Natalie Escanaverino - 04/04/2022 09:04 AM
Jan, I never realized the gift of writing that you possess. By the way, if and when our Virtus training sessions resume in person, I wouldn't mind taste testing your flans :) LOVED Gerry with a G's video! Clearly his mom was tending to the light in his lighthouse to make sure it burnt brightest when he needed it most! Moms are AWESOME!!!
Suzy - 04/04/2022 08:43 AM
This video was inspiring! I love that someone outside of the usual groups is addressing this issue and encouraging others to do so.
Dolores Alea - 04/04/2022 08:30 AM
Gerry with a "G" gave some great thoughtful reasons to spend a few minutes each month reading the short Virtus bulletins that have the potential to make a big difference in someone's life. Thank you!
Kathryn - 04/04/2022 08:16 AM
Excellent points made ! Brings its all home and wakes me up again. We can tend to get a bit complacent after time but as Gerry points out , you never know what and when something can hit you. Share your recipe for Flan๐Ÿ‘
Deborah Serrano - 04/04/2022 08:14 AM
Good morning Read your article, I found your story So amazing. The video was a great inspiration That I had to share with the religion education teachers Especially the light house. My mother Collected lighthouse that I inherent I would always say mom why not the Statue of Liberty since she was from New York Now I know the meaning Thank you God Bless
Marcia Gaitan - 04/04/2022 07:09 AM
Well done Jan very good article enjoyed reading and listerning .Thank you.

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